In response to the 2 previous blogs:
Women, you're not gonna like me. I don't care though. I'm not a relationship "expert" but with 6 years of being with the x-box loving, comic book reading, movie go-er guy I've learned a thing or 2.
Men are simple. They have simple pleasures. I've learned it's better to just pay the extra money and have cable put in the master bedroom so that while David (my husband) does his daily 2 to 2 1/2 hour daily x-box time I can busy myself with watching reruns of Bones or Kendra. I found that having this time is to my benefit. I can sneak my secret stash of Ben and Jerry's into the room and eat until I'm about to puke, come back and hide it without him even realizing that I was in the room. I have to do "temp checks" on my husband though because if he's winning then I know I can probably talk him into taking me out for dinner, if he's losing then I know I should probably not bring up the $65 I spent at Target and I promptly go to hide the bags.
Here's the thing girls- and again, you're not going to like me- men are trained from birth to drown out the sound of a woman's voice. There are only a few topics that your guy is bound to really open his ears to and thats drinking, sex and sports. If your topic of conversation doesn't involve prefferably 2 of those 3 things then you aren't likely to hold their attention for too long. Women, including myself, are somehow prone to only give our guys the run down of the drama in our livess. They don't care what the girl in the hall said to you about your dress, they don't care what your coworkers did that annoyed the crap out of you (unless it's about a male coworker making a pass at you and now he's invested in beating the crap out of this guy....or if a woman coworker made a pass at you but that brings up a whole other conversation usually starting with him asking you "is she hot?"). Women tend to drama dump, I'll be the first to admit it.
The strategy to getting them to listen:
again, the 3 main topics a man will listen to is sex, drinking and sports....and food. I did forget food. I find it easier to grab David's attention from a game when I have a plate of dinner in front of him. while he's eating I go through my day. If I offer him a "favor" after he listens to me talk then I notice he's more invested in the conversation. If I let him go back to his video game after the favor then he's more likley to remember that and do what I want to do that weekend. you just have to have a game plan. Talking to a guy takes a strategy. Now guys, you're not going to like this one- but for doing this we expect a lot from you. The rule is, for every $65 dollar x-box game you own, we are allowed a pair of $65 shoes. Don't come to us saying we have too many shoes when the games you have outnumbers my footwear.
Christina
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Christina,
ReplyDeleteYour comments are really funny. I too understand the guy game. Actually, it's all a game. We have just as many "isms" as men (if not more). I'm not bothered by it at all though. It keeps things interesting.
I can't think of a single relationship or possession that is more rewarding than my marriage. I happen to be married to my best friend. I am confident that our success is aided by the fact that we share so much in common. 1) I absolutely LOVE sports - especially football & basketball. This works out well for my husband because he will never hear me complain that we've been watching football all weekend and I'm tired of it. I will NEVER, EVER want to turn on a chick flick in place of the game. As a matter of fact, during football season, I make sure that all errands and chores are done by early because there's nothing getting in the way of me watching the game! 2) I am a huge movie goer! I'm totally content with going to the movies 52 weeks a year (provided there's a good movie playing). And while the horror movies get to me alot more now then they did when I was younger, I still watch because I'm with my hubby. 3) The xbox doesn't bother me. Actually, I LOVE watching him play pacman. If I could get him to play pacman everyday and have me watch for an hour, I would be in heaven. I still can't figure out why it's entertaining, but it is. But that's the only game I will watch. 4) We have a his, hers and ours account. So I could care less what he spent his money on - and he never says a word when I come in with shopping bags (I love Target too by the way).
So my contention is that when you're best buds with your hubby and you share alot of the same likes, you will both come out golden!!!!
So glad we have a woman's point of view on this male-dominated blog.
Mrs Jones
Mrs. Jones- You are officially my favorite!
ReplyDeleteMy husband is probably the same x-box level pro as Edwin and Mike. Although he doesn't play Madden, he's usually playing something that involves ripping people to shreds. I don't like those games...except the tetris version of Mortal Combat. I find myself begging him to play with me at 2am on a Saturday. I giggle every time my guy dies.
Christina